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October 30, 2009 -
This time I added more of my story at the end of the previously updated writing (well, that may be presumptuous on my part) which is indicated by the big NEW words after the picture of David and me at what I think is the Dukes. Thanks a million for visiting and following my story. Again, I am planning a boat hunting trip, this time to Florida and Annapolis. I will keep you up to date. Please let me know if you know of any rare gems in terms of old boat for sale. There are lot of people looking but few serious buyers - as I know from having just sold "Ons Jool".
MY STORY
This is my story of what I have been through in the past year, in particular, and the three years before that as the partner of a deeply rotten man, David Waugh. Now, thanks to the graciousness and especially the bravery of many kind readers, I have discovered that the extent of deception of David Waugh towards me and others has been far more pervasive than I ever would have imagined.
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David Waugh and me at his son's beautiful wedding in England, September 2006.
Many different people from around the world have shared their stories of how David Waugh lied to them and or abandoned them without explanation. For my part, David Waugh made what I thought were sincere promises to me, offering me his fidelity and love forever and based on that I sold my home in Florida, my car, and most of my belongings and moved to England to sail around the world with him on our sailboat. Three years later, in an act of total and in my view, intentional, cruelty, he abandoned me, without an explanation of any kind, alone, penniless and homeless in Mediterranean Spain.
Over the period of time that I was with him, David divorced his wife, Cheryl, so that we could marry. See
here for the divorce judgment and
here for some lies David told me regarding his divorce. (By the way, David tricked me into paying the legal fees for the divorce and he used my Florida address to facilitate the divorce proceedings.) He tricked me into putting the boat that I paid for into his name as majority owner, thereby holding me financially hostage, at great financial loss to me. The boat was sold in July, 2009. See
here for the boat ownership documents, including a copy of the Will that David Waugh executed making me his sole heir just in case something happened to him. I know you may have a hard time believing this, but I am not a
complete fool. I am a Chartered Accountant myself and have a Masters in Accounting and worked for many years as a senior executive in well-known international companies. I did try to protect my myself (which he deeply resented) as much as possible but it turns out that giving your trust to David Waugh is a costly and perilous proposition.
David Waugh and me at Canary Wharf, March 2006
Starting in 2007, David Waugh and I traveled together from Ipswich, England, where we bought the boat, to Almerimar, Spain, where I sold the boat two months ago (July 2009). During this entire time period, David pretended to many of his friends and business associates that I was "Cheryl" and that he was a devoted husband of many years to her and that he was an honorable and righteous family man. Many of the experiences that I had during this time, such as cancer surgeries, colon problems and related sicknesses and various adventures on the boat, were transposed to "Cheryl" by David so that there is a great bit of confusion on the part of many people of who I really was. In fact, I have even had people send me pictures of myself claiming that it was Cheryl and not me in the pictures. If you find this hard to comprehend, I can totally relate. I was completely flabbergasted at the notion that David Waugh was using me and my own personal experiences with him and transposing those onto another person. But, that is what he did.
David and Me on "Star Baby", in Florida, December 2006
Also, I have now communicated (after receiving proof in terms of pictures and emails) with several women who had sexual relations with David the entire time that I was with him. I assume but do not know for a fact that there are others. These relationships had been ongoing for many years and some of the women thought David was deeply committed to them. Fortunately for me at least, all tests for sexually transmitted diseases are negative.
Since David was transposing my experiences and adventures to "Cheryl" he also crossed up many of the experiences that I can only assume Cheryl may have had with things that happened to me. I will explain these in further depth on my blog, but for the moment let me just state that I was not despondent, depressed, alone and miserable living in England, Portugal or Spain. Instead, I was totally and helplessly (obviously) in love with David, completely thrilled with being on our beautiful Dutch-built 51' steel ketch, Ons Jool, enthralled with the prospect of our big adventure and truly thought we would spend the rest of our lives together. I had many fantastic adventures with many wonderful fellow sailors from England to Portugal and Spain. It was the culmination of years of saving money, hard work and many tears to be finally doing what I had dreamed of for so long.
"Ons Jool" in the Shotley Marina, 2006 - after we bought her but before beginning the big world cruise
My Introduction to David Waugh - 2001, Fort Lauderdale, Florida, USA
I first met David and Cheryl Waugh in 2001. They were living on their boat, next to me and my husband, Roger Langsdale. We were all "retired", fitting out our boats to live the good life in pursuit of the dream of cruising around the world. I forget the name of David's boat, but my boat was a beautiful 44' Cheoy Lee ketch, named "Star Baby". After about a year, David and Cheryl took off and went cruising and Roger and I accompanied them out to the sea entrance with champagne and best wishes. Six months later, Roger and I left Florida heading to Nova Scotia, Canada. Unfortunately Roger died shortly thereafter, in Annapolis Maryland, from a killer form of colon cancer. If you want to read about that sad episode, see here and here and here.
After Roger's Death - From 2004 to 2006
2004 - A year after Roger's death, I sailed "Star Baby" back to South Florida from Annapolis. I bought some properties which I subsequently converted to rental property and worked on them, living aboard "Star Baby". Out of the blue one day Cheryl called me and told me that her and David were getting divorced and wondered if I had any tips for moving forward after losing your husband. Other than genuine sympathy for Cheryl's loss, I did not have much to offer other than to repeat what I had heard which basically is that you have to find your own path. I offered to help in any way I could as her brother-in-law had recently been horribly injured in a car accident on my side of the state but I did not hear from her again.
Christmas 2005 - David sent me a Christmas card. Because of that, I googled him and he told me that he was living alone in Liverpool, having separated from Cheryl a year earlier. He said he had bought an English River Boat called "Sun Dog".
Really Reconnecting with David in 2006
January and February 2006 - David and I communicated by email. It was fun. We agreed to meet. David flew to Florida and I met him on the Gulf of Mexico side of the state. David was selling his RV and cleaning out the storage rooms that he and Cheryl shared. It was nice to see David and it was sad to me that he and Cheryl were estranged. David discouraged me from seeing her and to tell the truth, I did not want to see her either. Later, after David and I were serious with one another, I proposed calling and telling Cheryl about our being together but David quickly quashed that idea by forbidding me to talk to her.
Here's a series of emails between David and me in late February -- after his visit to Florida and before I flew to England to visit him. He used an email account called "cherdany@btinternet.com" -- later on I asked him to change it and he did to "nancyanddavid@btinternet.com". After we left our house in Widnes to go cruising we established another account because we lost the BT service. That was called "onsjool@yahoo.co.uk" and we used that until David dumped me in September, 2008.
From: DAVID
WAUGH [mailto:cherdany@btinternet.com]
Sent: Monday, February 20, 2006 3:48
PM
To: Nancy
Langsdale
Subject: back
home
Hi Sleepyhead,
Of course I'll call you - it's what I want - I just worry about waking you
and disturbing your night - that's my job. If you're OK with it then I certainly
will call - I just wish that I could crawl down the phone line and be with
you.
I hope all goes well with the haul-out today - I'll be thinking of you.
Send me all your news before you leave, if you can.......I'm greedy about
hearing from you and want to know everything all of the time.
Look after my bottom.......Your Fiance-to-be
XXxxOOoooXXXXxx
Nancy Covington Langsdale
<starbabyonthego@bellsouth.net> wrote:
If you want me to write
you as often as I want to write you which is very often, you have to realize
that I enjoy immensely your calling me in the middle of my night. I will always
go back to sleep. I will be crushed to wake up with both of my phones in bed
with me with no usage. THIS IS NOT SELFISH ON YOUR PART. Yours is a voice I
long to hear in the middle of my night. I’m not asking much. Just your voice,
your resonance, your deep and accented English. PLEASE. ….. Your desperately
flat but nonetheless non-needy in love sleepyhead,
Nancy
From: DAVID
WAUGH [mailto:cherdany@btinternet.com]
Sent: Monday, February 20, 2006 3:15
AM
To: Nancy Covington
Langsdale
Subject: Re: Marilyn
at 0150
Hi Baby,How I love getting into the office and opening up your
e-mails! The only problem is that I want to focus on them and on replying when I
actually have to work.Don't call yourself needy - we are in love and want to
be together and in constant contact - that's not needy - that's natural and so
how I feel. And of course I want to talk about marriage - but I want to be able
to ask you properly and in the right circumstances so that we can always
remember it. So let's keep talking about the process and then I want to deal
with the most important and emotive part in a special way. I want to love you
and be with you always and forever.I'm torn about the party - happy that you are enjoying
yourself but nervous about all those guys out there keen to frolic with you. But
really, I'm glad that you had a good time with the two ladies - (where were all
the guys if the three girls were off in the boat?). Are you really thinking
about working in Europe? If so, could you live
in Liverpool and travel from
here?Did I really only send you four e-mails yesterday - my
mind and heart were pumping them out by the dozen. And I sort of regretted
calling you this morning - it was selfish of me because I wanted to hear your
voice when I woke up. Maybe Marilyn heard the phone and then came
over.Anyway - I'd better do some work. Let's focus on getting
all money and work and other matters squared away as soon as possible so that we
can just go off cruising and be together 27/7 - we've only got 30 or so years
left together and we need to make the most of every
moment!Your Baby XXXXXXXOOXXXX
Nancy Covington Langsdale
<starbabyonthego@bellsouth.net>
wrote:
Hi. I was still basking in the
warmth of your voice when I heard steps on the deck. It was Marylyn. She
didn’t stay long but it was unsettling. So, now I am up … will go back to sleep
in a few minutes. Thank you for calling me. It was nice to hear the sound of
your voice. You do have a dreamy, deep and resonant voice. Goodnight again.
Nancy.
Here's another email two days later - February 22, 2006. David assures me that he is moving forward expeditiously with his divorce from Cheryl. He invites me to his son's wedding - a very meaningful invitation to me. "Cry Baby" was a center console runabout boat that I owned for fun little river trips and had hauled out to paint the bottom and fix it up for sale.
This picture is of me, Nancy - not Cheryl -in the 17th Street Boatyard in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, working on my little runabout, "Cry Baby" -- I was doing the bottom - a horrible job on a catamaran - even one this small - Late February, 2006.
Hello my Baby,I loved receiving the photographs and have saved them to my files to
treasure later. One of the zillion thingsI love about you is that you
can enjoy working and getting dirty and yet still be my feminine Sweetheart. I'm
not sure what to say except that I have no intention whatsoever of
drawing out my divorce - I just have to time it right in the next weeks and
months to ensure minimum distress and problems.
I'm so sorry to hear about your bad day at the yard. I only wish that we
could be working on Cry Baby together - and then the problems shared would be a
cinch for us. In the future I want to make everything good and happy for you -
but in the meantime I'm thinking of and loving you, especially on your bad
days.
I'll write to you more tonight about planning - maybe you could come over
here in March and then I come over there in April - and during those times we
can develop our plans from there? I'm so excited and amazed by all of this that
I'm slightly nervous about making precipitate decisions - not about us - that's
already the commitment and wonder and dream of my life - but in the timing and
financials - I'm ready to give everything up and live off driftwood and seaweed
just to be with you under our sky.
And you have, of course, put September 30th in your diary for Bath,
England, when Simon and Lottie get married?
Baby, in my mind I am rubbing your sore back, kissing your hands and face,
and holding you while you sleep and I listen to your breathing. Whenever you
feel tired, worried or weary, that's what I'll do - even from here. And whenever
you feel down in any way. then just e-mail or call me - I'll always be
there.
With zillions of tons of love and adoration, Los dedos tuyos...xxx
It's amazing isn't it that we are talking about marriage so early in our relationship? I brought it up. I had no interest in having a serious relationship with someone unless the other person was interested in marriage. David assured me he was. Turns out he was but not with me.
David discussing his RV situation with Maintenance and Repair, LazyDaysRVSuperCenter, Tampa, Florida 2006
Nancy and David at the Fort Lauderdale Beach - It's always warmer in South Eastern Florida
March 2006 -Our relationship heated up. I flew to England to visit David for two weeks. We were beginning to think that we might be perfect for one another. I wanted to sail around the world on a sailboat and so did David. We were about the same age (I was one year younger), we were unattached, and love began to bloom. Everything seemed to click for us.
David and Nancy aboard "Sun Dog", the beautiful river motor sailor that David had purchased earlier with the idea of traveling the canals in France. The boat was laying in Ipswich. We sold it a year later to a sailor who sailed her north and west ending up in Northwest Scotland. She was nice and homey but not made for ocean passages
David even took me to his Liverpool Land Development Office ("LLDC") to show to where he worked. It was an office. Without a doubt, I am better off on a sailboat
Here's David in his LLDC office. I took the picture.
Here's a view of "Sun Dog" -She was a gem and the new owner should be very happy with her. I was sorry to see her go but by the time that she was sold, we had already moved on to "Ons Jool"
Here's another email between David and me before I left for the first time to travel to see him in England. I know these are hard to follow. I cannot seem to copy in the addressing format from the beginning of the email that he sent me. If you doubt what I have written here, please write me and I will forward the original email to you.
February 23, 2006 - From: cherdany@btinternet.com
To: Nancy Covington Langsdale -Re: Only Three Questions Allowed
Frankly, I believe that we have to re-consider this whole relationship thing. As
I've told you, I have always dreamed of falling in love and being one with that
person - but never in a million years did I ever imagine that it would be
someone who likes and actually eats Brussel Sprouts! I am planning to have my
taste buds and olfactory nerves surgically removed so that we can be together -
see how much I love you???? xxx
Nancy Covington Langsdale
<starbabyonthego@bellsouth.net> wrote:
Hi. Number one: When can I start
using your new email address; and, Number Two: Is there a place for me to go
running, to work out, to go swimming, to go walking. I can use up a whole lot
of time in the day working out and I love every minute of it. Do you have a
bike? Opps, three questions. I’m disqualified. I miss you and I think of you
all of the time. I’m having brussel sprouts for dinner. Hahahahaha. Love,
Nancy
I feel that I have to send these emails wherein I constantly refer to things that I want to do and offers that I make in terms of things to do when I visit David in England because of all the confusion surrounding my state of mind once I was in England. To many of my readers, I was labeled falsely by David as Cheryl and according to the lies that David told repeatedly, I was miserable, sick, depressed and barely able to survive on my own. That was not true. I even bought a membership at the Widnes Town gym and David would drop me off there on his way to work at the LLDC.
Here is another portion from an email that I sent to David. I was really looking forward to the adventure of being with him in our house in Widnes.
From a portion of an email from Nancy to David, February 22, 2006,
I just want to see Sundog and see where you live and work and have dinner with
you and get the lay of the land. Do you have any painting to do, drywall?, tile
installation?, bottom work? Upholstery? Sewing? There’s gotta be something.
How about furniture shopping? Well honey, I’m going to bed after lotioning up. I love you and goodnight Mr. Planner.
It is very strange to find out that someone you trusted has falsely labeled you as someone else. As I have said from the beginning, my heart bleeds for Cheryl. Reflecting back on it now, I realize that my entire relationship with David was a fraud because of the lies he told about me to others who have now contacted me in mass confusion about what I have written versus what David told them.
I cannot imagine lying to my friends and business associates about my personal life. Evidently, he was trying to create an image that didn't exist. This is more sick than bragging about having had dinner with the Prime Minister or making millions of dollars on some sort of real estate deal. This goes to the very core of what friendship means. Many people who have written to me as a result of this blog are deeply offended by these lies. To me, right now, it explains to some extent why David dumped me in Spain the way that he did.
Time is getting closer to my visit to Widnes, UK WA8 9QB. I loved that post code because it began with WA as in Waugh. So, that was how I remembered it. Here is an email from David to me as he was in the process of changing the email account to nancyanddavid@btinternet.co.uk. He tells me that he has not had visitors to his new house. I know now that he had frequent visitors, often people who he later saw after I moved into our house, and it wasn't the "plumber". I can understand starting or having an affair even though I was his "partner". It is the utter hypocrisy of holding me to a standard he never adhered to himself that is still so painful and overwhelms me with sorrow.
From: David
Waugh
Sent: Tuesday, February
28, 2006 8:00 AM
To: Nancy
Covington Langsdale
Subject:
Re: Is is harder for your to get these emails to this
address?
Hi Babyness,
This is the e-mail address to use from here on - no
problem. Haven't seen any photos - maybe you sent to other
address.
Yes, red car is mine - and what pots and pans? I'm
afraid to confirm that there have been no romantic evenings in the house - or
even any visitors yet!
Got to run as I have to go to that dinner tonight -
BORING!!
Will call you when I get home and into
bed.
Love and love and love etc...
Here's David and me on "Ons Jool" leaving the anchorage in Portimao, Portugal. I just threw this in here for the heck of it.
Here's me (not Cheryl) on July 3rd, 2007, finally leaving Shotley for our world cruise. Photo taken by our professional photographer friend and fellow sailor, David of David and Elaine, the Guardian Spirits on their beautiful boat, "Guardian Spirit". I made a CD for them called "Guardian Spirituals" and according to Elaine David sang his heart out to it--
Here I am in the Widnes house kitchen - cooking. David hated me using any pots and pans and, God forbid, the oven. Mr. Fuss-budget hating me "ruining" the oven by using it.
Here's David in the glorious red Jaguar. I was allowed to drive and even drove to Shotley from Liverpool (once). David took me over to the Whirral. I loved it there and went back several times and once I even walked across the entire Whirral (25 miles) and then took the bus and the train back to Widnes. The train station in Widnes was only a 4 minute walk from our house - through the cemetery path. I had to time my walks to avoid the thugs from the local school (in the fancy uniforms) because they would pin me on the bridge going over the train tracks and spit gum at me. I don't know why they did that. At least they didn't shoot me.
Playing tourista in London, March, 2006. We went to Greenwich but I was very disappointed with the Historical Museum. It was dumbed down. I did cry though when I saw Nelson's jacket with the bullet hole through it.
David in the Widnes kitchen. Evidently, we are going out for dinner because he is not complaining too much.
The happy "Ons Joolers" - I never suspected what was to come.
Here's another email series between David and me. He is so incredibly believable - but it was all a lie on his part. But, I was obviously enraptured. En captured (?) ..
March 1, 2006. From: David Waugh
To: Nancy Covington Langsdale
Another quick reply - I had no idea (being a heathen) that it was Ash
Wednesday, etc. I shall enjoy learning more about these things from you - I
won't join in but I will support and respect in every way.
I do, though, really like relating the meaning of Easter to you with what
is happening to us - it really is a coming alive and a renewal. For me, not a
re-birth - more a birth in that this is new, original and wonderful.
I may have sent you a card but you took the process to the next step by
suggesting a trip to the Bahamas - you daring Baby! And off we went from
there....... Bahamas trip to whole life in two easy steps...
Will write again later from home. Stay safe and happy - and WEAR YOUR
SEATBELT OR THERE'LL BE TROUBLE!!!!!
I adore you Nancy Ann...XXXXX
Nancy Covington Langsdale
<starbabyonthego@bellsouth.net> wrote:
Hi there again. Well, it is Ash
Wednesday which is the beginning of Lent, which is a time of sacrifice and
reflection in preparation for Holy Week and then Easter. All part of a renewal,
regeneration (hey, there’s a word for you), rebuilding, coming alive, and so I
am, we are, engulfed in this whole process. I love it and I did just come back
from church to reinforce my renewing and my coming alive and having a new life
because of you – and God. See how much power you have … I just can’t believe
all of the possibilities opening up to me. Thank you so much for sending me
that Christmas card. I think I still have it. I’ll have to see if I can find
it. Tell me again why you didn’t put your return address on it … did you think
I wouldn’t know who you were? I sure as hell did. I will always be grateful to
you for that. In regard to your press acumen … I
think that quote of yours about the navel gazing was the funniest thing I’ve
read in a newspaper. And, you were spot on especially looking back now. I can
just imagine the fall out. I had to sign documents at my jobs stating that I
would not speak to the press and I was under heavy duty pressure to never
disclose anything about the company in restaurants, etc. Well, at United at
least, I was an insider. The institutional investor magazines were always
trying to interview me but I wasn’t allowed. Oh well – Thank goodness I
didn’t. Anyway, I guess I will have to bring my camera with me to
England and take many, many pictures
of you and us and we’ll have a good time with that. I really miss you right now
and I wish you were here with me. I feel very empty without you. … and it’s
the middle of the day. I’m going to go work out and burn off some of this
emotional energy. Love you baby, Nancy Ann. (Twelve more days until my
birthday)
My first trip to visit David in England was fantastic.
David made all of the plans:
From: DAVID
WAUGH
Sent: Sunday, February 26, 2006 9:59 PM
To: Nancy Covington Langsdale
Subject: Re: Upcoming visit by my niece, Erica
Hello Honey,
Thanks so much for the Itinerary - how exciting! The timing
also seems to be working out well with your neice's visit - although there are
two long gaps - from now until the 18th March and then from the 2nd April until
I arrive in Lauderdale (we must talk about when). The visit from Linda sounds
fun for you and once you know the dates we can build it into our developing
plans and schedule.
Jag lag will be no problem - I just kick straight into the
local time zone, but you'll be able to do whatever comes naturally. I usually
find the second and third days to be the worst and then no problem. I actually
arrive back from Cannes
Friday evening - so I'll scoot around and try and sort things out in time to
pick you up from the airport on Saturday morning.
I actually have to give a speech in London
at an event on the 27th/28th March and so maybe we can go down for the weekend
and stay until Tuesday 28th and then come back to Liverpool.
We could go to Greenwich and visit the Maritime Museum amongst other things. The weekend
that we get here, maybe I could take Monday the 20th off work and we could
travel to the boat on Sunday morning and then return to Liverpool
Monday afternoon. Whatever you would like.
Hell - I've just re-checked my diary and I have a formal
dinner on March 23rd that I can't avoid - sorry, Baby. but I'll have to leave
you with the TV that evening.
But right now I'd better do some work - I love and miss you
with all my heart, mi Amor.
XXOOxxxxOX
David’s house was beautiful and I enjoyed having Widnes to explore on my own while he was at work. I discovered the Town Gym – I forget the
proper nomenclature, but I spent many hours there working out and
swimming. I loved walking through the
Victoria Park where they had just renovated the pond and many other features in
the park.
David and me at "The Patio" on Penny Lane in Liverpool. Looking back now I wonder how many other women thought this was their "favorite".
Here we are on my first trip to Marks and Spenser -- I understand why everyone likes it so much --
David and I took the train to London on a business trip, staying at the
very posh Duke’s Hotel. Our room was enchanting. What a perfect way to visit London.
David went off to work and I went exploring on my own – which was
primarily walking through parks and nearly getting run over all of the time
because I never look for traffic in the right direction – I loved the spots
where you could stick you toe out into the traffic and the little lights would
come on and all of the traffic would stop you let you cross.
David took this picture of me in front of his London office. Now, I don't know if it really was his office or not but that is what he told me.
Not sure where this picture was taken. Maybe it is at the Dukes - I don't know for sure.
NEW
More Planning from Mr. Planner --
From: David Waugh
Sent: Thursday, March 09, 2006 7:32 AM
To: Nancy Covington Langsdale
Subject: Re: Sundog and London
As far as I'm concerned we can just drive round and round
England - just can't wait for you to be here. So, Saturday will be arriving,
settling in and bathing/showering after flight, and then looking around
Liverpool (with a substantial and steady flow of major hugging and kissing and
hand-holding) - with dinner booked at 19.30 that evening.
Sunday - up diabolically early to leave for the East coast
and Sun Dog. Day on Sun Dog cleaning and maintaining - then either sleeping
there (to be discussed) and returning to darkest Liverpool the next morning, or
leaving that evening to drive back - giving us Monday free back here. Then 4
work days. Unfortunately, on the Thursday I have a necessary formal dinner and
presentations - at which I think we are going to get an award. So I'll be out
that evening - damn it! Then to London by train Saturday AM, and stay there
through to Tuesday PM - returning to Liverpool mid-evening. So we'll have
Saturday and Sunday together in London, and you'll have all of Monday and most
of Tuesday to explore other places in London. Then 3 work days and then
Saturday, then the horror of Sunday and your return.
Lets live and work in the Bahamas instead!
Love you, Baby....David
Well, as you can see from the pictures above, I had a wonderful time on my first visit to England to visit David. Over the next 14 months I gradually became immersed in our new life of being together at "our" house in Widnes or on "Sun Dog" or visits with David's family in either Cheltenham or in the vicinity of London. I believe that in the next year - between March 2006 and May 2007 -I traveled back and forth to England 7 times. I still had "Star Baby" in Fort Lauderdale, which I put on the market for sale, my car, and my little runabout "Cry Baby".
I also had to undergo a lot of surgeries for skin cancers - the non-deadly kind but very difficult and unpleasant for me because they involved a lot of cutting into my skin, mostly on my face and on my hands. It turns out that, unbeknownst to me, David described these surgeries in detail to his friends and business associates but he transposed them to Cheryl.
Maybe David maintained a close and loving relationship with Cheryl the whole time I was with him. I don't know. If he did, he lied to me about it. I do know that he sent her money every month. We wanted to stop the monthly payments. That was ONE of the reasons for the divorce. I thought David was totally committed to me - that turned out to be a lie in every respect.
From what I hear, David did re-marry Chery in October, 2008. Just after dumping me, without warning or explanation, in September 2008. Maybe he did re-marry Chery. I don't know. It just seems that he could have made life easier all around if he had told me his intentions. In my view, there is only one way to describe his behavior -- sheer cowardliness.
This is at the Dukes, in London, March 2006
Here's one of the last emails from David before I left for England.
I know you may scoff at the notion that I wanted to explain my relationship with David with Chery, but I did. From my perspective, the two of them had separated over a year earlier and were going through the final process of divorce. I felt that Cheryl would appreciate my getting in touch with her to explain the circumstances. Later on, David was very forceful about my not contacting her under any circumstances whatsoever.
From: David Waugh
Sent: Friday, March 10, 2006 10:23 PM
To: Nancy Covington Langsdale
Subject: Re: Just finally picked up my voice mail messages
Good Morning my Love,
I got up about 06.45 and immediately checked for your
e-mails - what a poor excuse for an independent man I have become! I'm glad I
awoke and that we could speak last night - I missed hearing your voice before
going to sleep.
I worry sometimes at how dependent I have become on you, us
and our communications. It's quite pathetic - maybe I'm now making up for
decades of not caring enough and always looking to get away over the next
horizon.
Well, a day of car cleaning, house cleaning, shopping and
generally doing errands and organising - yuk. I do also have some work to do -
reviewing some legal documents and a development brief that must all be
completed before I leave on Tuesday. The development brief is quite exciting -
in commercial and regeneration terms - in that it takes forward a fairly
complex idea that I have been developing over the last six months with respect
to carrying out a major intervention by a public/private sector partnership in
a very large and derelict area of Liverpool of about 850 acres. I'll show you
the area when you are here. Anyway, central government is interested and I
sahll be meeting with a Cabinet Minister over the next month or so to discuss.
Thanks for your thoughts on the bus - can't think how you
can help at the moment, but i will certainly talk with you about it.
Interaction between you and Cheryl is a kind and brave thought - but would not
help and would doubtless hinder my moves towards a divorce. I'd like for us to
talk about our plans while you are here so that I can prepare how to best sort
out an amicable divorce as soon as possible. Would that be OK?
I'm so excited about you coming here in a week, and then me
coming to you 3 weeks later - I would prefer that I was here all next week so
as to have the house and everything completely ready for you - but I'm unable
to change my flight back from Cannes - no seats available and all overbooked.
So I don't land at Liverpool until 19.00 Friday evening - and I am praying that
there are no flight problems - it's the season for strike action by Spanish and
French ATC, and Easy Jet are notoriously late - especially on Friday afternoons
and evenings - we shall see.
You'll be asleep right now - all curled up and lovable
in our bunk. I can see you in my mind and it makes my heart sing. Sleep well,
my Baby, I love you and I will always be there for you. David xxxxx
April 2006 -
I know that I have not made much progress past April, 2006. But you already know all of the story. Sorry as it is. I will fill in more. It is quite painful going through all of the emails. I have just restored the files as many of them were damaged when I lost my hard drive after David dumped me in September, 2008. Thanks to my friends in Almerimar, Spain, and my crawling around in the Bin-- Pronounced "bean" by my Liverpool friends (the "dumpster" to Americans) in the middle of the night, I still have them.
I am going on a boat search trip for the next week and will not update for several days but then I hope to have more pictures and more emails to tell my story. I am asking you to draw your own conclusions. I will tell the truth of what happened. I know how impossible it is to believe me. I did not have faith in myself for a long time. Now, because of the brave people who have shared their stories with me, I am restored and know the truth. Not all of it. But I do know that I was not the evil character in this whole charade.
The Honor Roll
Here is the story of a brave soul who survived a relationship
with David Waugh. I met her through this blog. She volunteered to write this story and it is remarkably similar to mine in so many respects. I hope this will encourage other woman who have suffered as a result of giving their love and their trust to David Waugh. I have not made any edits or changes to this document in any way. She has not released her name. David will know who she is and so do others who have discussed this relationship with David in later years. Story here
Want to Dig Deeper? Here are some other links -
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Archive
October 27, 2009 -
My oh my!!!! I keep receiving links to the
story of the English doctor who was just found guilty of poisoning his
mistress's unborn baby in an attempt to abort him. Of course, there is
absolutely no resemblance to David Waugh whatsoever in terms of
the charges or conviction. If you want to read about the original
story, here is a link in the Times The
sub-story though - the show of blind loyalty of the wife for her
husband - the guilty doctor - is what has drawn the interest of the
readers of this site.
It
is totally believable to me - and as wimpy as it seems I can relate to
the wife who cannot accept that her husband is a criminal. Even in the
face of all of the evidence to the contrary she still believes in him.
Here
is an article from the Daily Mail about why the wife is standing by the
husband (doctor) - You can read the whole article at this link --
Again, I am very grateful to you, my readers, for sharing these stories with me.
Of
course, I did not know that David Waugh had been unfaithful to me
throughout our entire relationship until I received feedback from this
blog. It was extremely painful to learn of the depth of his deceit.
I hope that you do not have to suffer someday in a similar fashion.
If you want to know more about the doctor story, here is another interesting perspective from Melanie Reid of the Times online.
October 25, 2009
Thanks
again ever so much for reading my blog. I have added some more
pictures from London and from the Liverpool area - in particular a
picture from the "Patio" on Penny Lane to celebrate my birthday - which
is March 12th. The boat hunting adventure this past week was a
disaster. All of the boats in my price range are junk heaps. It just
makes me sick to think of all of the effort I put into making "Ons
Jool" as clean and beautiful as possible so that she showed well to
potential buyers.
The boats that I am looking at now are full of trash
and rags and old tools spread about haphazardly. I know I should not
dwell on the differences but it is hard to absorb the reality of my
change in circumstances. Okay, that's enough self-pity for one day.
God
Bless you for taking the time to read my blog. Today is a special day
as it is the anniversary of my mother, Theresa Marie Covington. Mother
of nine. All of the Covingtons will be celebrating the festive
occasion this afternoon.
I have had quite a bit of communication
regarding the doctor in England who was just found guilty of trying to
poison his mistress's baby and the stories of the double life that he
led. There are similarities to David Waugh, except that David wasn't
as wealthy, good looking or as well educated - otherwise, the
similarities in terms of living a life of deception are, from my
perspective, stunningly equivalent.
October 16, 2009 - It is very
exciting for me to report that we have visitors to this blog from all
over the world. Thank you for helping me share my story. There are
readers from EVERYWHERE - The only information I know is the location
of the access - I don't know who you are or your email address or any
other private detail - and in case you haven't figured it out yet,
composing this blog is a new thing for me. Here are the location
statistics somewhat in order of the readership: England, The Falkland
Islands, USA, Spain, France, Italy, Thailand, Canada, The Netherlands,
Brazil, New Zealand, Peru, Australia, Chile, India, Argentina, Germany,
Venezuela, and even Tanzania.
I have added more
material to the blog, especially emails between David Waugh and me.
David Waugh always told me how much he valued his privacy (as he told
everyone else too) as if no one treasured such a sacred concept. I
realize now in his narcissistic fashion that he never fully appreciated
that we ALL treasure our privacy. This blog is not intended to invade
David Waugh's privacy. I want to expose how he ruthlessly deceived me
so that others are less likely to fall for his schemes. I was his
perfect patsy and he took full advantage of me.
We hope to see you again! Check back later for new updates to our website. There's much more to come.
